Excerpt from MRDA’s Personal Files #1 : Emotion vs Emo!?!


As I see it, one of the most distasteful things about the emo movement contributes to making genuine expressions of emotion (evermore) a taboo.

A pet peeve of mine is reading someone’s candid feelings/ grievances being (de)augmented with an apology for “going all emo”. The amusing thing is, it’s rarely the ones who spill across the page in blurry, emotionally buffeted posts 24-7 who stand guilty of this; more often, I find such self-abnegation rife amongst those clearer, relatively non-theatrical souls who just happen to hit this or that bump on the road of life.

I think the fetishization of emotionalism as a 24-7 lifestyle choice ultimately provokes a backlash of callousness and cruelty which stamps down hard on “displays of weakness” and vulnerability – valid, as well as otherwise! Guys seem to have it tougher in this regard, what with “keeping it all inside and “the stiff upper lip” espoused as an essential component of Being A Man(TM). Remember – Boys Don’t Cry!

Saying all this, I tend to be one of the most stoic, self-restrained motherfuckers I know. At times, I just want to let it all burst forth, suspecting I may feel all the better for it ; yet after so long playing this endurance game with my inner drill sergeant, it proves a gargantuan effort to put the rifle to him Private Pyle style….

….since I don’t intend to put my mouth to the rifle in a similar vein, I reckon I’ve got quite some way to go…..


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7 Responses to Excerpt from MRDA’s Personal Files #1 : Emotion vs Emo!?!

  1. okay you’re right. i can’t deny it, especially in light of all the criticism i toss in the direction of the emo movement!
    but i don’t know…i’ve always been like this. i am emotional at times, just only in private comfortable situations. and i feel that displaying that vulnerability too readily can make people uncomfortable to the point where they feel socially obligated to show sympathy to the “victim” whether that sympathy is genuine or not.
    i hate social emotional blackmail, i don’t want to make any one feel obligated to feel one way or another about a delicate subject just because i’m carrying on in some heart-wrenching manner.
    i feel like being more stoic gives people the option of choosing from a more comfortable position how they feel about a given matter, without them having to fear scorn from me for feeling differently than i do.
    that, and i just have always been this way, i just intellectualize and rationalize my problems. this has its draw backs the way any other coping mechanism does, as you pointed out, especially if it’s part of a superficial and reactionary social trend.
    it just happens to be the natural outcome of my personality, as i’m the philosophizing type….haha
    and i find myself extremely uncomfortable with expressing sadness in other ways, and i have been this way for a very long time, and so have my father and sister before me. i think it’s a very big family thing for me.
    but i see what you’re saying, and thank you for the criticism, it has certainly put another spin on my perspective. i understand what you mean and i will take it to heart.

    • MRDA says:

      I wrote this in my personal diary thang on Sunday and delayed its posting up until yesterday; I didn’t specifically direct it at you, although I’ve seen you do the apology thing in your own journal a few times, especially in light of your latest developments.
      I think that if there wasn’t a repressive, “stiff upper lip” attitude to the emotional realm, not such a censorious attitude toward vulnerability, emo culture most likely wouldn’t exist – there’d be no need to fetishize emotions into an all-consuming 24-7 commodity – but I suppose all this proves rather academic now!
      But yes I’m usually much the same as you in regard to my emotion and I really hate those few times when I can lose control of that in interpersonal situations – perhaps the two polarities are linked (not unlike what I made mention of in your “Darkness” post).

      • this point of perspective has greatly helped me, and i know i’ve definitely used the phrase “go all emo” before!
        and it’s funny too, because as you mentioned this is usually a “guy thing,” but i did spend most of my childhood being raised by my dad so that makes sense to me.
        and interestingly, i know i’ve made allusions to the fact that if i pick on emo kids it helps them be more emo, but i had never thought that that type of attitude might also have influenced emo’s creation in the first place. although in retrospect that seems kind of obvious!

  2. goodbye_doll says:

    Daniel, just let it all out. Dont worry if your mascara smears and your cool thick eye liner rubs off. Just let it out. I’m here for you, man. We can even write poetry about it together at the local starbucks.

  3. Anonymous says:

    “Religions” are Anti-Messiah…….period…….
    “Religions” are Anti-Messiah…….period…….
    DISCLAIMER: The following is written concerning the religious
    systems of this wicked world, not individuals. Recorded for
    revelation, not condemnation, in hopes there would be those
    who “see” and “hear” for they will “come out from among them”.
    “The Way of Truth is evil spoken of” because of pagan “catholicism”
    and her harlot pagan “christian” daughters ;-( Their “imag”ined “jesus
    christ” is not The Messiah! It was some five hundred years ago that
    they named one head of their three-headed pagan “god”, “jesus”,
    during a time that has been called the “reformation”.
    An aptly named time! For it was a time when “catholicism” birthed her
    harlot “christian” daughters ;-( They were of her substance, and such
    substance was “reformed” so that her “christian” daughters might appear
    a bit differently outwardly and yet they remained inwardly but pagan
    harlots, in love with this wicked world, just like their “catholic”
    mother ;-(
    “christianity” is but the byproduct of the fornicative relationship
    pagan “catholicism” has always had with “the god of this world”, “the
    father of lies”, “the angel of light”, “d”evil ;-( Because they serve
    “the god of this world” they believe in death ;-( Because they believe
    in death they believe death is an answer to the temporal worldly
    problems encountered by their own religion and/or their own national
    worldly alliance.
    All religious systems, muslin, jewish, buddhist, catholicism,
    “christian”,,etc,, are Anti-Messiah!
    Religious systems of this world, all alike they are,
    Their “members” have fought, killed and died, both near and far;-(
    Then once a week, or multiple times a day they may pray,
    And yet as hypocrites they begin each new day ;-(
    Days that are filled with deceit and lies,
    For in a “religious system” Truth can not abide ;-(
    And so the fruit of death is born of religion’s way,
    Because life is but a pawn in the wicked game they play ;-(
    Today’s religious systems are of mankind’s “imag”ination ;-(
    They but build temporal temples of vain deceit ;-(
    Faith will not create a religious system…….period…….
    The Messiah testified of a “wicked world”, and of His disciples
    being “in, not of, this world”.
    John exhorted those who believed “to love not the world or it’s
    things” for “the WHOLE world is under the control of the evil
    And James testified, “whoever is a friend of this world is the enemy
    of GOD”!
    Those of this wicked world and it’s religious systems are destroying
    Creation and The Great Spirit has promised that HE “will destroy those
    who are destroying HIS Creation(earth/sky/water/creatures)”;-(
    May there be those who heed GOD’s Call to “Come out of her, MY people”!
    All who take heed unto The Only True GOD’s Call will exit the broad
    way to destruction and they will follow The Messiah on “The Way to
    The Truth of The Life”!
    The Messiah testified, “whoever lives and believes in Me(His
    Teachings and Life example) shall never die.”
    And then The Messiah questioned, “Do you believe this?” YES!
    And you? Do you believe? or do you believe in death?
    For those who do not believe in Life,
    while there is breath(spirit) there is hope!
    Hope that there would be those who “come out” of the “strong
    delusion” that is the religious systems of this wicked world. Hope
    that there would be those who believe in and receive of The Life. Hope
    that there would be those who would “experience The Messiah and The
    Power that raised Him from among the dead”.
    Miracles Do Happen! HalleluYAH!
    May you experience The Miracle that is “receiving a love of The Truth”.
    Peace, in spite of the dis-ease(no-peace) that is of this wicked
    world……. Peace@ASimpleAndSpiritualLife.Org

    • MRDA says:

      Re: “Religions” are Anti-Messiah…….period…….
      Can the person who posted this bollocks step forth and make their identity known?

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